Kitsuneare commonly portrayed as lovers, usually in stories involving a young human male and a kitsune who takes the form of a human woman….. often presented as tricksters, with motives that vary from mischief to malevolence… common goals of trickster kitsune include seduction…
Get ahold of a blood pressure cuff. You’ll need to measure your BP and pulse.
The website below has the exact method, but, basically, you lay down for a few minutes and take your BP. Then, you stand up, stay completely still (no fidgeting, no talking, nothing), and periodically take it again. If your pulse goes up more than 30 points when you stand up or your blood pressure drops while you’re standing, take those results to your doctor.
Question: is it possible to have this or something similar and still have regular sitting blood pressure when taken at the Dr’s office?
ABSOLUTELY.
First, being at the doctors’ raises most people’s pulse and BP.
Second, doctors often look at any BP that’s not high and go “yep, that’s fine”. Your normal resting BP might be what would be considered low normal, but it should be higher for you to be comfortable.
For example, my resting BP is 80s over 60s, which is low normal, but I feel better if it’s a bit higher. My mom’s resting BP is the same, but she feels fine at that.
What BP people do best at varies a ton, and, unless you’re constantly on the verge of passing out, it’s hard to look at just one reading and say “something’s wrong”. That’s why you should try out this test. It’s best if done at home, when you’re nice and calm and not hungry, but trying it at the doctor’s office might turn something up even with the elevated numbers. You’re really looking for one of two things:
Pulse goes up further than 30 points while BP stays roughly the same, which indicates POTS or similar,
OR
Pulse goes up too much while BP goes down, which indicates orthostatic hypotension {like me} or similar.
And it’s not just immediately at standing. Stay perfectly still for a few minutes, see if anything happens. It may not be immediate.
Get ahold of a blood pressure cuff. You’ll need to measure your BP and pulse.
The website below has the exact method, but, basically, you lay down for a few minutes and take your BP. Then, you stand up, stay completely still (no fidgeting, no talking, nothing), and periodically take it again. If your pulse goes up more than 30 points when you stand up or your blood pressure drops while you’re standing, take those results to your doctor.
I am having trouble finding care sheets for corn snakes, the ones from the pet stores seem most dubious, where they say that co-habitation is fine and good, which seems wrong? There’s not a lot of info on humidity, temperature, hot spots, or how to determine how much to feed them other than “not too wide”.
Maybe @wheremyscalesslither , @omg-snakes or @why-animals-do-the-thing you can point me in the right direction? Websites and forums are coming up a little sparse, but i might not be looking in the right areas of the internet. I want to make sure I am fully prepared before I get one.
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I asked my husband (who is probably reading this, hi!) and he didn’t say no exactly, but he didn’t say yes exactly either, so I am cautiously collecting as much information as I can until such a time as I get a more firm “yes this is ok”. The kids seem cautiously optimistic but don’t want to be around when it is fed, which is reasonable. I figure if i can keep the hermit crabs alive for at least a year then i might more actively pursue it, but that’s a ways off yet. Currently, we’ve had 4 crabs, 2 died during their first shed and the other 2 have survived 2 sheds, so like, 50% success i guess. I’ll be happier once I know they’re thriving and surviving more sheds, but I know shedding is a very stressful time for inverts, so i’ll just keep holding my breath every time they go underground. and doing my best to keep the husbandry good.
You’re very right not to trust pet store care sheets, especially ones that say cohabitation is ok. Cohabiting corn snakes is not a good idea. Unfortunately, I don’t know where to find a good care sheet either. There’s a lot of outdated and conflicting info in internet care sheets for corns in specific. The good thing is that corn snakes are an “easy” snake, and are rather forgiving of mistakes.
@i-m-snek has a corn snake and is always very friendly with advice and might know what direction to point you in. Or @omg-snakes breeds corn snakes and probably has a few pointers to offer.
And of course, any of my followers that are knowledgeable in corn snakes are welcome to add their two cents 🙂
Hopefully you can get some answers. Good luck!
Not sure about snakes, but for your hermits, humidity. A ton of humidity. They’re tropical. I’m guessing you know that, but just in case you don’t, humidity.
Alzu is enthusiastic about this idea, Soundwave declines long-term interactions with the mouthy extrovert but would entertain the idea of a hunting trip together.
*everything* that’s considered romantic has been conditioned by society, it’s performative, like the emotion can be genuine but romantic *gestures* are a societal construct, chocolates, flowers, rings, there’s no inherent act of romance, the purest form of what is conceptualized as “romance” can probably be boiled down to emotion + intent, and the manifestation of that combo’s gonna be different for everyone
an action evoked from a feeling of adoration and the need to express it can be constrained by what society provides, but once it’s made irrelevant the meaning becomes tailored to those experiencing it; someone giving fancy chocolates to their s.o. because it’s ‘the thing to do’ can’t measure up to someone giving the chocolates because they know their s.o. thinks the boxes are nice and really likes hazelnut fillings, same gesture, but former lacks ‘inherent’ romance because romance isn’t ‘inherent’, the later has a standard approach but it goes beyond what’s considered ‘romantic’
Hello I am a big fan of Obstinaterixatrix’ Romance Meta and I’m just gonna add to this bc it’s a good post.
I feel like what makes the difference between something being romantic and something being What Society Says Is Romance is the connection between people.
Let’s say two people arrive on my doorstep. One of them has a bouquet of expensive roses from the florist. The other one has a dead bird in a plastic bag. We all know which one is to be considered the romantic gift (hint: it’s not the corpse)
And it’s not like I don’t like flowers or am allergic or anything, I would probably be flattered. But I have no connection to roses, and like, you can give roses to more or less anyone
Dead birds are not a standard gift, for pretty obvious reasons. A person bringing me a corpse in a plastic bag had to know me well enough to know that I collect bones and process them myself, and you don’t go shopping for birds in the Dead Bird Shop around the corner, so that means this person didn’t go out with the intent of getting me something and came back with an Appropriate Gift, they probably stumbled across something and thought about me (this ‘something’ just so happens to be a dead bird, because I’m weird)And then they had to go through the process of picking this bird up and bagging it and bringing it to me, probably pretty spontaneously and without a calendar event that says Find Dead Bird For Raptor with a timeslot between three and four pm.
You can’t have Corpse I Found In a Ditch be romantic without some sort of connection here. Roses can be romantic, but it can also just, be a formula. Two plos Two Equals Romance. A shortcut for ‘I care about you‘, even though the person might …. not, actually.
If it’s someone who loves fresh flowers in their home but rarely has the money to buy large arrangements, or like OP’s example where person A gets the chocolates because they know their s.o. thinks the boxes are super cute, then we have Standard Romantic Actions actually be romantic, but they might as well not be.
This is where my squad has the joke of someone posting a picture of a dead rat to the skype chat and goes ‘Raptor I saw this and thought of you‘ and I go -exaggerated gasping noise- “how dare you blatantly flirt with me right in front of my girlfriend“ from (and also THIS JOKE that bunch of people were confused about). Because there’s INTEREST and CONNECTION there. They’re obviosuly not actually trying to steal me from my gf, but there is a human connection and a knowledge of who I am and what I want to be associated with. The humor then comes in from the self-awareness that this could very much be the opposite of a compliment in, like, probably most other situations ever.
So TL;DR: Things can’t be romantic without the connection between people, no matter how ‘inherit‘ people claim the gesture is. However, more or less anything can be a romantic gesture if there’s the right connection and consideration behind it. Taking out the trash can be romantic. Bringing home a dead fox can be romantic. There’s no Romance Shortcuts. You have to actually care about the other person (sorry, Writers Of Like 9 Out Of 10 Mainstream Movies), there’s no way around it.
So basically: Care about each other!! If you’re writing, write characters who care about each other!! And if you don’t know what character A could do for character B, you might wanna look into whether or not you’ve made a Cardboard Love Interest, like I feel many mainstream writers do. But that’s a whooooole ‘nother can of worms.
Someone in my near vicinity: *looks in my general direction*
My paranoid ass: oh great, they’re reading my mind
and this is why you always wear headphones, to muffle the thinking for your average passerby
when this happens to me i’ve started thinking “THINK FAST” really loudly and abruptly while imagining pitching something at their head really hard and if they don’t flinch i feel a little more secure that they can’t read minds.
^^^^ THIS This is actually a really cool idea I’m gonna try this.. hope this helps out others as well!
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