My cats understand and will obey a number of verbal commands, one of which is “go away”. I don’t use it often, but if they’re bugging me and I’m trying to work or doing something that could be dangerous for cats, I can tell them to go away, and off they go – they’ll only keep pestering me if there’s a serious problem they need me to look at.
That said, their idea of a serious problem that requires my attention is somewhat eccentric. Previous instances have included:
There was an unfamiliar car parked across the street
Their water bowl was four inches to the left of its usual position
One of them had puked on the stairs and they didn’t want to walk past it
It was raining
One of them saw a weird bug
These are all very important things that required your attention. They’re doing a good job.
Dogs really aren’t much better. I teach all my dogs the command “show me”. How it works is if the dog needs something but I’m having trouble understanding what exactly they’re trying to tell me, I say “show me” and they lead me to whatever the problem is. Usually they lead me to a real problem (like a toy that got stuck under the couch, their water bowl is empty, etc). But sometimes they want me to fix things like this-
They pulled the covers off my bed and now they want me to put the covers back
They put their ball on top of the ottoman but the ottoman won’t throw it for them
The cat is sleeping and won’t chase them
A flower fell off the potted plant
The cat is sitting in a box and they don’t like it
One of them lost their bandana
The cat won’t take the toy they’re trying to give her
The cat DID take the toy they gave her and now they want it back
All emotions are impulses in your brain and chemicals in your body. That is all. There are no evil emotions because they are nothing but signals in your brain. Signals are not evil.
All emotions are tools meant to keep you alive. They are meant to serve you.
Rage is a tool for you to harness to keep yourself and others alive.
Talk to the potential land lord about making installments toward your down payment.
This is how I got out my mom’s house both times.
Each pay check start buying things you need for your place. Family Dollar has just about everything that you will need when it comes to hygiene and keeping the place clean.
If it’s safe talk to your other family members to see if they have furniture they want to donate. Most elderly folks especially have lots of furniture they don’t want cluttering their house and they will love to see you.
Craigslist has a section for things left on the kirb. I got my kitchen Cart free and delivered to me when a couple got sick of theirs
Don’t forget to buy a shower curtain and liner….just don’t lol
Once the apartment is secured talk to the utility companies before you get there. If you have no credit or bad credit they may want you to pay a deposit….I found out the hard way after I moved in. It was not a pleasant experience.
Crock pots are your friends
….you will be broke alot. If you have a car or are thinking about getting one, one job probably won’t be enough to sustain you.
The first time I moved out I had 20 dollars to last me until I was paid again. So I ordered a large cheese pizza and ate that for two weeks.
….if you are leaving an abusive situation you may question if you did the right thing a lot. I had panic attacks before and after I moved out.
This does not mean you were wrong to move. It just means the abuse tricked your brain into thinking moving out would be bad for you.
Your apartment probably won’t look how you want it to for a few years and that’s ok. It takes time to build and afford your “aesthetic ”. Don’t feel bad if your apartment is just a bed, a coffee table, and if you are lucky maybe a used sofa. The peace you will have when you close the door and lock it is phenomenal.
Oh if you eat meat chicken thighs and drumsticks are always cheap as are pork chops. Buy them in the large packs, separate them while defrosted into zip locks, throw them the freezer
Craigslist also has a free section. With enough diligence and scrutiny amazing treasures can be found.
Public libraries have free Wi-Fi and cheap printing for resumes, school projects, etc.
Most places like McDonald’s, IHOP, etc have coupon codes on their receipts for completing online surveys. End up with two meals for the price of one.
There are usually local listings for food pantries that you can get groceries from. I have the full list for the NYC area, I’ll post it later.
Also don’t underestimate the power of a thrift shop.
As someone who plans to move within the next year, good tips.
For boxes go to the grocery store or family Dollar type places and ask if they have any boxes they can give you. If you work in an office ask the receptionist or the folks in the mail room.
Qvc and hsn have easy pay payment options that will allow you to get items sent to you while making monthly payments. They sell some furniture, mattresses, computers, tvs, etc. Definitely better than lay away, but look out for them over charging.
Counter top dish washers are awesome if you hate doing dishes and your land lord allows them
Salvation Army usually has pretty good deals on furniture. Check with the manger for daily deals. Also check liquor stores for boxes they usually have plenty to spare and they’re always very durable. Check stores like Walmart and Kroger around 7-8pm for deals on whole rotisserie chickens for $3. They’re usually trying to get rid of them around that time. You can make a chicken salad with mayo, mustard, and red onion. It will last you all week for under $6, or you can just eat and store the chicken for a few days.
Also check out https://www.freecycle.org/ !!! We’ve gotten some decent furniture off there and you can post if you’re looking for something specific, too.
I don’t want to sound patronizing, but check if your local dump/ recycling center has a side building where they sell stuff. I found a good dorm fridge/ microwave combo, a decent office chair, and a big ass desk, for about $40 altogether. And they let me take home a bunch of D&D books and other crap for free. Since it doesn’t cost them anything to supply, you can get really nice deals.
How do I convey to Jamison that trying to steal the monk’s balls is not a smart crime?
It’s fine, let him try. They are infused with my energy, so I can recall them at any time.
Additionally, he would have to try and sneak up on me, and with his creaky leg and penchant for giggling, I suspect that may be more difficult than he expects.
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