rattlecat:

I think you need to figure out what your preferences are. Truth be told, sex isn’t all about “going out” and hooking up. If you’re an introvert, you can go out to every Dave and Buster’s and mall crawl you want: You ain’t gonna wanna get with anyone, let alone be social with them.

You want to find people like you, or that have kinks or energy levels that align with yours. My wife has a pretty high sex drive, while I have 0%. But she’s also cool with just getting each other off without actually having to go get the dildo or the harness or get out of bed or do anything more than move a hand with a vibrator. So the nights I’m super low energy, or even when she is, we’ve got options. We know how it works and how it’s gonna play out.

As for being gross and problematic? Honestly, you aren’t gonna know til you’re screwing whether or not you’re “problematic” in the ways that would disrupt one’s sex life. I mean, I was in an orgy where one of the guys just kept making like… motor noises when he grabbed tits and didn’t get why that was weird. It sure as fuck didn’t stop any of us from fucking at the time, but in the long run he wouldn’t be someone I’d get with per say. Just doesn’t line up.

The gross part? Man sex is gross as is. You are literally putting either two wet holes together, or you’re lickin’ a hole, or shoving your fingers in a hole, or you’re wrapping your hand or mouth around what is essentially a flabby tube of flesh and nerves and is used for piss and cum. Unless you’ve got really super super bad hygiene (obviously you don’t want to have sex if you know you got a yeast infection or some skin disease going on down there that is temporary), gross is subjective. Look we got people who are cool with getting shit on. Farting during sex is the least of anyone’s worries. My wife’s and my sex blog is literally about all the stupid shit we run into whenever we have sex. We literally had a night that looked like a fucking vampire came in and ravaged us because Shrine was on her period and blood was EVERYWHERE it was insane. (We fuck with the lights off so we sure as fuck didn’t realize just how bad it was)

But man, GO SEEK OUT them peeps like you. If you wanna fuck there is plenty of peeps down for tryin’ shit out. Some nights it’ll work. Other nights it won’t. But go for it!

And, hey, you’re allowed to go and have sex with people for no other reason than because you want sex. If all involved are consenting and being safe about it, why not?