Yeah, I’m getting a bit ahead of myself, but I’ve been consuming a lot of knowledge about aquascaping and I am REALLY EXCITED to get started on my 20 gal set up. I just wanted to geek out a little with you guys. Like–even hardscapes, before the plants are added, can look so stunning??? Look at these!:
…I need to get in on this hobby. It’s like painting an illustration with the realest of the real mediums. Art and animal husbandry, my two greatest hobbies…married.
It’s absolutely gorgeous, but lemme tell ya, a lot of work and grow-out time goes into those final results. If you put plants in and it doesn’t look quite how you want, give it time! Everything needs at least a week to stop looking newly-installed, usually, and then it all has to grow and blend together to look natural. As long as the plants are healthy, leave it alone, let nature do its thing.
tumblr thinks “fetishize” means “be sexually aroused by” and that is why we need decent sex ed and not a hot mess of a blogging platform
if something besides you having sex or the idea/possibility of you having sex (including the idea of you watching other people have sex or vice versa) sexually arouses you, even if it only does so when combined with the idea/possibility or actuality of you having sex or masturbating but especially if it does all on its own, its considered a fetish/kink
fetishes and kinks arent inherently bad, though. theyre only bad when they sexualise or objectify an unwilling person or (even worse, but much more commonly) an entire group of people (ex.: if gay sex turns you on and youre NOT GAY then youre fetishising gay people by reducing us to sexual objects and thats bad and gross. if watching interracial sex turns you on more than sex between two people of the same race but you treat people of other races as though youre above them and either are unwilling to interact with them whatsoever irl or unwilling to interact with them in a nonsexual way, then youre fetishising people of another race and reducing them to sexual objects, and thats bad and gross. etc.)
what the fuck else would fetishise mean beesides treating something as a fetish
A kink is just an “unusual” sexual desire; it’s not a scientific term and mostly self-defined, so I’m gonna talk about fetishes here.
It is normal to get turned on by things and people that you do not want and would never want to have sex with.
It’s really, really upsetting to me that people don’t know this, so I’m going to say it again:
It is normal to get turned on by things and people that you do not want and would never want to have sex with.
If you sit people down in a lab and hook them up to a scan and show them any kind of sexual images, there’s a significant chance that they’ll get aroused. This is true regardless of the sexuality of the viewer and the gender of the performer – or even the species. It’s been repeatedly demonstrated that people experience arousal from watching animals have sex – and not like a small proportion of people. Like, half of people experienced some kind of arousal. While levels of sexual arousal may vary, plenty of people experienced sexual arousal in response to any sexual act.
Fetishization – more properly “objectification”, since fetishes are a narrowly defined category – occurs when a person or a group of people are reduced only to the sexual pleasure they provide (it has non-sexual uses too, but we’re not talking about those right now). Being aroused by someone isn’t objectifying them. Being aroused by someone that you don’t want to actually have sex with isn’t objectification/fetishization, either.
A man being aroused by two women isnt objectifying them, and a straight man watching lesbian porn is not fetishizing lesbians. (Nor the reverse, with women watching gay porn.) It’s fetishization if he treats all real life wlw like objects to be consumed, if he makes their sexuality all about his desires, if he believes that they exist to turn him on and are doing something wrong if they don’t, if he judges real life wlw relationships based on how much they turn him on.
(I’m staying away from the interracial comment, since while just being turned on by someone not of your race is obviously not a fetish, the huuuge majority of porn focusing on race is not that. At all.)
You actually got really close in the end:
“If you’re unwilling to interact with them in a nonsexual way”.
That. That is fetishization, or close enough for us to agree. It’s not just being turned on; it’s turning your arousal into the only way that you interact with a person or group of people.
so i guess activated charcoal lattes are the newest latte trend? for why? i hate to break it to y’all but unless you’ve ingested poison recently, activated charcoal has no real benefits. just stick to matcha [polyphenols/ antioxidants] and chai [antioxidants+anti-inflammatory]
also, if you’re on any important medications, and i know a lot of you are, don’t fucking drink these. charcoal doesn’t discriminate. it’ll render your meds useless and absorb them too as well as some other beneficial nutrients
^^^^ including hormonal birth control. Don’t fall for the charcoal bullshit. Stay safe.
We have definitely had this discussion before, but it’s worth having again.
And charcoal doesn’t just absorb meds. It just absorbs stuff. So all that healthy crap you added to your smoothie is just gonna get sucked right back up by the charcoal.
(yes I’m simplifying, no that does not make my warning useless)
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