Gather round kids while I explain this manipulation tactic that men perpetually try to use and why it’s bullshit.
If someone is openly showing interest in you by making disparaging or disappointed comments about your age, they’re trying to put you on the defensive. This guy wants me to try to quell his discomfort, to bring up that I’m only a month shy of 20, etc. – he wants me to try to prove myself to him, that I’m mature and adult enough for a man like him.
His goal is to establish a power imbalance right off the bat. If we were to date, I would constantly be on the defensive, constantly striving to be an equal, constantly trying to prove my “adult” credentials. Anything he says or does or wants from this point on that I object to would just be seen as a strike against my age, proof that he was right and that I’m not mature enough for him. This is how SO MANY men pressure younger individuals (primarily women and girls) into situations and relationships they aren’t comfortable with. If he truly thought I was too young for him, he wouldn’t have messaged me. This is a very calculated move, and it’s fucking gross.
Adult relationships with age gaps are completely fine, but only if all parties view each other as equals. If someone is trying to set you up in a way that ensures that’s never a possibility, run far away.
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This is really important because I think that educating about power imbalances and how to spot that manipulation is a lot better than saying “young people don’t date older people”. I had people use this kind of tactic on me when I was 18/19 as well and it is really damaging.
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I like crowntails because they tend to move more freely, and I also like the ones with slightly shorter tails and fins so they can act like fish. The longer-finned ones can be gorgeous, but I like my fish to move. Not a fan of the Dumbo-ear ones.
The fish in my icon is Bismuth, one of the prettiest bettas I’d seen in a long time. Never could photograph him right, but he looked just like his namesake, this nice shimmery metallic color overlaid with greens and blues and a hint of light purple depending on how the light hit him. I tend to prefer blues and greens and shimmering colors.
I also really like wild-type bettas like B. albimarginata.
🐙🐙🐙🐙🐙! While diving in the deep waters of Monterey Bay National Marine Sanctuary, researchers aboard the E/V Nautilus came across more than a THOUSAND octopuses! These octopuses – Muusoctopus robustus – were in a likely brooding posture. They were tucked into nooks in the seafloor with their arms inverted, covering their bodies and white egg clusters.
Yes, those white dots are all octopuses. Here’s a closer view of one of them:
(Isn’t she beautiful? That’s her siphon that she’s showing off. Octopuses squeeze water through their siphon to swim and steer. They also use their siphon to blow oxygen-rich water gently over their eggs.)
The octopuses were near shimmering fluid seeps, which were previously unknown to occur in this region. Near the octopuses, you can see sea anemones, sea snails, and other organisms. This dive was at about 3,000 meters (1.9 miles). We have footage of the octopuses for you, too:
The E/V Nautilus is currently in port to repair its ROV cable, but should be out at sea again soon! Find photos, videos, and information about the expedition here, and visit nautiluslive.org to watch the dives.
(GIF 1 description: Many white octopuses resting on the seafloor. GIF 2: An octopus rests on the seafloor and displays her siphon through her arms. GIFs/video credit: Ocean Exploration Trust/NOAA)
2 weeks old and 12 babies are getting too big for the brooder. normally, i would i set up the second box i have and divide them. BUT its that wonderful time of year where i can put these lil guys into the coop with the adults early. over the last week they’ve only been in this brooder at night anyway.
time for my babies to live outside!
had to put Left Beef (the rooster) in a time-out for a while. he lost his fucking mind when i added these guys to his turf. but he’s cool now, still a bit on edge, but he cool.
to be fair, i’d freak out too if someone dumped a dozen children in my house.
I lov the children!
Where did you get that water dispenser? That’s a really clever design, the little lever for them to peck to get water into the bowl. Seems like a nice compromise between the nipple waterers (sometimes hard for birds) and bowls (too easy to get messy).
lol that’s okay! The whites are albinos, so they have two copies of an otherwise recessive gene. I was surprised too because we got none the first litter and neither of the parents have a white ancestor minus one great grandparent.
So since both parents carried a copy of the gene (50% chance to inherit) which needs two copies it gives a kit a 25% chance of being born albino..
Here we see the convergence of genetics and statistics! You can predict how things will go, but sometimes statistics goes “ha, nah, have a batch of 4 kits where 3 display a trait that’s a ¼ chance”.
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