malusdraco:

i guess to expand on those tags

i’ve personally known people who have chosen names similar to their given name. like. on one hand ppl like that exist and they’re well and truly valid for choosing to stick with that kinda name because they all have like. specific reasons for it

and if a trans person wanted to write a character like that, i would trust them, legitimately, to do a good enough job

that being said, there are some things cis people (again, confirmed, absolutely not questioning gender cis people) will fundamentally not get. they will without a doubt do it wrong

so please, cis people, i am on my hands and knees begging, do not make your trans characters have alternate versions of their deadname. 

on a lighter note. one thing i think cis ppl could tackle okay in writing trans characters is the whole finding a name process. here’s somewhat of a secret, it’s fun. well kinda. it’s very exciting. it can be uncomfortable! it can take a few tries to find the right one, it’s like, yanno it’s like shopping for something but you have no budget and a very very large stock to choose from

some fun name choosing details y’all can feel free to sprinkle in:

-asking friends what they’d call you/what name you look like, given they know what gender you’re aiming for (usually a no but fun/interesting regardless)

-standing in front of a mirror, calling yourself by different names (feels weird, sometimes you can hit something though)

-asking other ppl to call you by a name you’ve settled on, and the first initial feelings from that (won’t always be a hit)

other trans ppl feel free to add more