froborr:

mexicantransguy:

Ok but as a dysphoric trans man the whole ‘you need dysphoria to be trans’ actually baffles me because even tho I’ve always had severe dysphoria, it didn’t actually help me figure out my gender at all. I usually dismissed my dysphoria as ‘internalized misogyny’ or just not being feminine enough, which actually just caused me worse dysphoria.

You know what made me figure out that I’m trans though? Gender euphoria. The minute I got called a ‘sir’ is the moment that I realized, “shit this feels right.” And at that point I realized that I could no longer deny the fact that I’m not a woman and that I couldn’t keep living as one.

Here’s a hot take: maybe being trans isn’t so much about how uncomfortable you can be in your DGAB, but rather how much more comfortable you can be.

Trans woman chiming in to second this.

I was dysphoric since at least the onset of puberty, but it took me until age 36 to realize I was trans, and it wasn’t the dysphoria that made me realize it. I even knew that what I felt sounded exactly like what dysphoric trans people described. But I dismissed it as self-loathing, depression, unhappiness with my body type.

And just like OP, the dysphoria isn’t how I realized I was trans. That feeling of “this is right, this is what I want” is how I realized I was trans. The realization that wanting to be trans and being trans are the same thing. Only then did it become clear. Only then was I able to start transitioning. And only then did my dysphoria begin to break.