thefingerfuckingfemalefury:

grison-in-space:

shurisgroot:

Small brain: Thanos loves Gamora.

Medium brain: Thanos doesn’t love Gamora.

Big brain: saying that abusers are across the board incapable of love is reductive of the nuances of abuse (particularly parental abuse) as well as Otherizing abusers, allowing people to erroneously lump abusive people in with a damaging and incorrect stereotype of mentally ill people (ie. Incapable of emotions like love and empathy, further contributing to the demonization of mentally illness) and allowing people to invalidate the claims of victims if someone deems the abuser too “normal” to be abusive. By unilaterally characterizing abusers as horrifying monsters, you create a culture of denial around who abusers are and what abuse looks like, because it is not just dead-eyed “sociopaths” enforcing their will on helpless people, it can happen to anyone and anyone can act abusively regardless of their own emotional capacity for love or other generally positive emotions. The real question to ask in regards to Thanos and Gamora, therefore, is not whether or not he loves her, but rather “is the way Thanos interprets and acts on the feelings he views as love something we deem acceptable as a society at large?” To which the answer is a resounding “FUCK NO”. Because ultimately all of this is to say that it doesn’t matter whether you view an abuser as capable of love or not, they’re still an abuser at the end of the day and love doesn’t change that. Thanos might feel something akin to love for Gamora but to anyone else that means NOTHING because he’s abusive regardless of his affection for her. The absence of love isn’t what makes abuse. Abuse is.

Galaxy brain: Gamora loved Nebula and is the one who actually made a sacrifice.

FUCKING THIS OKAY

On EVERY LEVEL

As an abuse survivor

ALL OF THIS

Not all abusers are actively trying to be hateful

Some abusers really do think they “Love” the people they are abusing

It doesn’t stop the abuse being abuse

Abuse is abuse regardless of whatever reason the abuser is doing it. It doesn’t matter if they think they have a good reason for their abuse. Their still an abusive piece of shit

One thing I liked about Infinity War is that at no point does Gamora ever forgive or give a shit about Thanos’s bullshit

She doesn’t care that this fucking monster has had his “feelings” hurt that she doesn’t love him.

She openly despises Thanos and tries to murder him twice

And would literally rather be dead than do anything to help him

Gamora does not owe Thanos forgiveness or understanding or love or anything just because of his feelings

Thanos is a genocidal sack of shit and he deserves Gamora’s hatred and loathing