I think I may be asexual… I’m confused about what it all means though, its so hard to find info. All I know is I don’t have any interest in having a sexual partner, or even a romantic one for that matter, and no one understands why. But, I do have sexual feelings? And also sometimes those feelings are for people? But the desire to act on it is what i feel is missing? I hope this makes any sense at all. I guess what I’m asking is, what defines asexuality? Do I sound ace, or just broken?

cliffnotesofanerd:

You don’t sound broken at all. “Ace” is a sort of umbrella term to indicate lack of sexual attraction *to people,* not lack of sexual drive or desire. There is a spectrum of this lack, as well, going from absolutely no attraction to “I’m ace in most ways, but it’s complicated.” And that’s okay. It can be frustrating to try and explain, even to yourself, and that’s okay, too.

You are not broken. You may not have the exact word for it, but it’s not broken. I promise.

Look up autochorissexuality. It’s a facet of asexuality, characterized by a disconnect from the object of one’s sexual interest.

Basically, people and various works of fiction can be hot, and you may or may not experience arousal, but you don’t actually want to go and have sex with them. You may or may not eventually have and enjoy sex, and you may or may not masturbate. Brains are a bit odd, and sometimes things change, but it’s OK if they don’t.

I’m autochorissexual, and I find some people hot, but it’s almost always fictional characters. If/when I think about sexy things, it’s with two fictional people doing things, I don’t ever think about myself with other people. I don’t have any interest in sex for myself, physical or mental. I’ve run into some other people online who also do that. Your experiences may vary, though. 

Someone who doesn’t experience romantic attraction is aromantic. It’s a thing too. 

Whatever your experiences regarding sexuality, you aren’t broken. Sometimes it’s hard to find the right word to describe yourself, and sometimes there isn’t really any one right word. That’s OK. It’s also OK for those things to change, and it’s OK for them not to change. Sometimes they do, sometimes they don’t.