wordsonbirds:

Please, please.

I know that lots of folks will assume that the bird will let go when they realize that they aren’t going to win in this tug-of-war where their body is the rope. So a lot of people when their bird is being exceptionally stubborn will try to pick them up and if a bird doesn’t want to go they will clamp their feet down hard as they can.

It’s often not just that they are being stubborn and don’t want to move, a lot of the time they are scared.

They see someone reaching in and grabbing them from their ‘nest’ and especially young ones will hold on to the bars for dear life against an intruder trying to abduct them. Because as far as they are concerned it could be a matter of life and death.

Not all birds will bite, some will just struggle to get away and others will end up freezing up completely, which only makes their grip stronger.

So you can’t assume if your bird isn’t biting that you are not hurting them.

I say all of this because that is what happened to a little Meyer’s a couple of weeks ago. You know those little babes I’ve posted pictures of once in awhile? Someone wanted to take them out of the cage but the baby was reluctant and the person decided to just keep pulling on the bird until they let go.

Unfortunately the only point the bird let go was when their toe broke.

There is absolutely no need to use that kind of force unless you are in a life or death situation (and even then care should be taken to try to prevent injury or further harm). If you just want your baby out of the cage because you want to do something with them, you need to find other methods of getting them out of the cage.

Grabbing and pulling while they desperately cling on is a recipe for disaster.

Remember they are so much more fragile than we are and we are so much stronger than them. Their bones are not dense and their muscles are comparatively small. But that doesn’t mean that they aren’t strong enough to hold onto something. Especially parrots are designed to be able to hold on for dear life and they are strong enough to pull their body.

You have to be very careful of the amount of force you apply to any interaction with them, and you certainly shouldn’t be trying to out muscle them.

Please, don’t pry birds off of things they are desperately clinging to. Find another way to get them off.

handpickedhappiness:

soycaf:

fenrispenris:

hottermelon:

iamaslumberbatch:

a-lot-like-diana:

so basically when you have your period and your lower back hurts it is because your hips are contracting and spreading apart, only slightly, to make room for the release of the blood and linings of your uterus. so basically your body is going through a small and mild labor to push out the dead insides of your uterus. so basically I have gone through labor and basically I don’t want children. 

why aren’t we taught this shit

…..this wasn’t obvious to anyone? What did you think your body was doing? Did you think the lining of your uterus just fell out of your vagina? And the cramps were what, for fun?

Considering how practically non-existent sexual education is and the fact some people with uteruses have so little knowledge available and actively shared about their body they don’t know where they pee from or that having large labias is normal, it’s probably safe to say, no, it wasn’t obvious. Nobody thinks you’re hot shit for pissing on people for not knowing something we’re rarely taught in-depth.

I hate it when people get all ‘wow wasn’t this obvious to you guys, you’re pretty dumb’ about shit like this. Shut the fuck up you’re not helping.

trapqueenkoopa:

shadywinters:

advicefromsurvivors:

When your child says “Why can’t I get a puppy?”

Instead of defaulting to “My house, my rules”

Try “Any pet is a lot of responsibility. A puppy would have to be fed, walked, and taken outside to use the bathroom several times a day and taken for regular check-ups and vaccinations at the vet. You can’t do all of that by yourself, and I/we don’t have the time or money either.”

When your teenager says “Why can’t I come home at 2:00 this Saturday?”

Instead of defaulting to “My house, my rules!”

Try “The time you come home is a matter of respect and consideration. I/We will not only be concerned for your safety, but we would either be disturbed in the middle of the night when you arrive or forced to stay up for several extra hours waiting.”

When your child says “Why am I not allowed to do this thing?”

Instead of defaulting to “My house, my rules!”

Try actually communicating a legitimate reason, because children pick up on subtlety and on context and on the unspoken messages, and it’s better to teach children lessons like “You should think really hard before taking on new responsibilities” and “It’s important to show consideration for the needs of the people with whom you share a living space” than lessons like “It’s okay for people to demand your absolute obedience so long as you’re dependent on them for survival.”

TRUTH

Also worth knowing: training your child to accept arbitrary ‘reasons’ for obedience like ‘because I said so’ and ‘my house my rules’ etc trains them to be more susceptible to peer pressure because in their mind, when someone who is at all an authority (older than them, bigger than them, more impressive than them, more confident than them) demands something, they should accept it and not think about it critically.

Let them ask why, and give them a real reason. If not, don’t be surprised when they fall for lots of bullshit when they are older. You’re the one that made them believe ‘BECAUSE’ was reason enough.

glumshoe:

identicaltomyself:

pervocracy:

glumshoe:

Every child wants a bandaid for every injury or complaint, even if it didn’t leave a mark. I could give a kid a bandaid for a headache and he’d be satisfied that appropriate medical care had been done for him.

MEDICAL FACT

My kiddo fell down and scraped her knee and I washed it and was about to put a bandaid on it it when she wailed “I want Grandpa to put on my bandaid. He’s a DOCTOR!” Fortunately Grandpa was right there, so he did it and my kid immediately stopped crying. Double super placebo effect!

My co-counselors started deferring first aid to me because they could tell the kids, “Don’t worry, Ship will take care of this one. He’s WFR certified!” as if that makes me more qualified to put a bandaid on your bruised knee. The kids did not know what this meant, but it sounded impressive enough to their ears that they’d stop crying and trust that I’d helped them.