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theunicornkittenkween:

I’m 100% for desexualizing nudity.

Growing up my mom frequently walked around topless while getting ready for work so boobs especially are not really sexual to me unless put in an explicitly sexual context. ((Genitals were another matter but I’m sure I could have grown up with those normalized as well.))

Now this next part may be controversial, IDK.

But if you’re going to desexualize it, or make a point about desexualizing nudity, it would help if you didn’t choose photos featuring poses used by sex workers (esp porn stars and strippers) to sell their services? Not that it’s exclusive to us ofc. But that pose of bowing your back at an unnatural angle to show the roundedness of your ass and tits to greatest effect is a very “come hither” pose. It’s not your nudity that sexualizes the image, but the pose. If you made that pose fully-clothed it would still be interpreted as sexual. Hell, it’s used to sell “trashy” lingerie all the time as well.

If you want to normalize and desexualize nudity then show nudity in everyday settings.

• Naked while slouched on the sofa gaming, complete with belly rolls. 
• Nude but for a t-shirt while cooking because no one wants hot oil to burn their tits but you can’t be bothered to get fully dressed. 
• Nude while blowdrying your hair. 
• Nude while sleeping with the covers all bunched up and ugly.
• Nude while knitting and watching TV.
• Nude while clipping your nails.

Desexualizing nudity starts with showing “ugly” nudity. 

Desexualizing nudity begins with the everyday. Not with on-location photoshoots featuring common “come hither” poses.

And OFC there are people with a voyeur fetish that will still find a way to sexualize that everyday nudity. But ffs there are youtube channels dedicated to people covertly filming women’s feet in flipflops because it gets them off. There will always be someone to sexualize a nonsexual thing. 

But if you want to start a social change wrt to desexualizing nudity, it won’t be by photographing a pose that has been the standard on 75% of the back covers of porn DVDs.

I’m also very much pro destigmatizing sex and porn and sex work, while still acknowledging various problems within communities and industries as they currently exist. But those are separate but related conversations from “desexualize nudity”.